I still clearly recall my first dating experience and the anxiety I experienced when I had to tell my parents.
What do they think? How would my father respond? Would they criticise me for my choice?
Naturally, my parents accepted the boy I was seeing without asking any questions, so any worries I had were unfounded. They were as long as I was content.
Unfortunately, not every parent is as accepting. Some parents may even have mixed feelings about the people their kids are dating based on factors like skin colour or the religion they chose.
This is most likely the reason why a mother’s text message regarding her daughter’s partner has drawn so much attention.
Heather Boyer received a text message informing her that her daughter was seeing someone else. When you view the text in question, you’ll probably realise why it took Boyer some time to find out how to respond to the message appropriately.
She posted her comment on Love What Matters, and it has gone viral on the internet.
The reply from Heather
My daughter’s profile photo was updated today. Five minutes or so later, I receive a text that says, “I didn’t know she was dating a Black boy, did you?”
After spending the entire day coming up with a response, I decided to share it with anyone else who “may not know” but did not submit it directly.
I did know, to be sure, but his skin tone doesn’t define who he is. The way he handles my daughter is what truly defines him.
In my opinion, it’s a huge deal when my daughter visits my home with a boy that treats me with respect. We talk about baseball and football, he always says “yes” or “no,” bids me farewell when he departs, and has never once treated me disrespectfully or with a lack of etiquette.
My daughter is seeing a boy who treats her well. He takes her out to dinner, on dates, and to baseball games. not going to a club or having a weekend party.
“I observe that my daughter is seeing a boy who brings her to church.” Each Sunday. Her family sits with him when he plays in the band. What percentage of young men prioritise religion these days? Not one of the others has.
He never hits her, swears at her, tells her lies, or causes her to cry. Would I prefer that she avoid dating someone of a different race by dating a white boy who did? Definitely not.
That’s my answer to the query that was posed to me. I understand that everyone has different opinions, but ultimately, I’m glad my kid has someone who loves her and treats her like royalty. It’s something I’ve never experienced in my life, so I’m happy she does.
Fantastic illustration
We applaud you, Heather, for such a remarkable reaction. It would be far more pleasant and equitable to live in a world where everyone adhered to the same values.
We long for a time when people are assessed on their actions and how they treat others rather than their race, creed, beliefs, or heritage.
Best wishes for the future to Heather’s kid and her boyfriend! We are glad that you two have connected.
