The majority of us may identify with being the target of other people’s thoughts and inquiries around parenthood.
The implicit push from society nowadays is to have a decent job, find a partner, get married, and start a family. Wives who choose not to have children must therefore frequently defend their choice to others. People might be quite awkward and ask personal inquiries that have nothing to do with the decision if they don’t grasp it.
The recipient may feel uneasy when asked these questions, which are frequently rather nasty and intimate, particularly when they ask why they have decided not to have children.
The ultimate form of egoism, regrettably, might be seen of as not having children. However, when couples who are seen as “different” wish to have children together, the definition of egoism rapidly shifts.
More than two decades ago, Patti White of California received some news that left her feeling both thrilled and anxious. Lisa, her daughter, declared she was expecting a child.
Down syndrome, a hereditary and chromosomal disease, causes Lisa to have different levels of mental and physical disabilities. Many people with Down syndrome are capable of taking care of themselves, working, and leading independent lives, but this is something that many people tend to forget.
It is uncommon for a man with Down syndrome to father a child, so the chances of two people with the condition having a child are lower than those of other couples.
Patti White was shocked to learn that she would soon have a granddaughter, but she fully supported her daughter Lisa’s choice to retain the kid.
Lisa worked full-time at the neighborhood Goodwill store and owned her own apartment at the age of 29. She had spent eleven years living alone.
She could perform all tasks except working the cash register, and she got along with everyone. Patti told Voice in 2016 that she enjoyed her time there and that they liked her.
A man with Down syndrome and Lisa had also begun dating, although they lived in different homes. Patti recognized that her daughter was in a solid adult relationship; they also talked about safe sex and birth control.
Patti stated, “Every book at the time claimed that men with Down syndrome were sterile, and people told us not to worry about it because they couldn’t get pregnant.”
But destiny had other ideas.
Patti was listening to her voice mail when she got back from work after lunch. Then she received a message from a delighted Lisa:
Hello, mother You will soon become a grandmother, and I wanted you to know that! “I had a lot of different ideas,” Patti adds. How was this possible? “Her boyfriend has Down syndrome!”
The decision to have the kid was viewed by others as reckless and self-centered, and Lisa’s capacity to be a decent mother was also questioned. However, her family was incredibly protective and helpful to her.
A passionate and vocal individual, Lisa’s pregnancy was typical in a number of respects. She had all the usual symptoms, attended childbirth classes, and had a pregnancy coach.
During my pregnancy, I worked five days a week, which made it difficult for me to move around. I was feeling under the weather and had morning sickness. Lisa said to Voice, “I thought I might throw up.”
But because her pregnancy was deemed high risk, she was treated as such. Nic, Lisa’s son, was born four weeks early and shared his parents’ Down syndrome.
Nic’s father was there when he was born, and the new parents made an effort to share a single residence. But regrettably, it didn’t work. Unfortunately, Nic lost his father when he was five years old.
Nic, a lovely young guy of 24 years old, was nurtured by his mother and grandmother, who are both extremely proud of him.
Everyone who has children is at risk, but Lisa was especially at risk because of the wide range of viewpoints regarding her choice to become a mother.
It got to the point that Lisa lost contact with some of her friends because their parents were worried that Lisa would encourage their daughters to become mothers as well.
Ultimately, however, none of these opinions matter, particularly not to Nic, who has succeeded and is a college graduate who holds a great deal of regard for the ladies who reared him. They have helped shape him into the guy he is today.
“I have two mothers.” Lisa, my mother, is my best hope for the future. He stated, “She is always wonderful and she is beautiful. She gave me life, she gave me love, and she gave me birth,” according to Fabiosa.
In 2016, Patti posted a touching update on Facebook that included a photo of a happy son and a proud mother:
My daughter Lisa is shown here clowning with her son Nic. They both have Down syndrome. It’s a historic year for all of us. He will be 20 and she will be 50. I am older than the ground. We are so proud. We wanted her to get to know him and be in a relationship with him when she got pregnant. Even though they had many ups and downs, we can honestly state that after all these years, they have triumphed over the challenges and have a deep love for one another and their tiny family. (She’s a single mother)” Patti wrote.
This mother-son combination has dedicated decades to demonstrating to the world the worth of individuals with Down syndrome. The stories of Patti, Lisa, and Nic also offer valuable information that, ideally, will assist others in making their own choices.
They are deserving of our attention and appreciation because they inspire us.
