My sister is 33 years old and has one child.
She has three kids, and each one has a different dad.
I watch them for free four times a week because she works a lot.
My 5-year-old nephew came up to me and said, “Auntie, I saw Mommy hiding your shiny money box under the couch.” I was very surprised.
At first, I thought it was funny. I figured he was just playing around or getting things wrong, like kids do. But I halted for a second because he looked so serious.
My old-fashioned cash tin that I kept at the back of my wardrobe was the only thing that could be in that “shiny money box.” I had been saving for a secondhand car for almost a year by putting twenty dollars here and fifty dollars there. No one else knew where it was. I hadn’t even thought about it in months.
As soon as the kids were asleep, I went straight to my room. The closet door creaked open, like if it were trying to tell me something. My heart fell. The package was gone.
I sent my sister a message:
Me: “Hey, did you take something from my room?” That little silver box?
She asked, “What box?” I don’t know what you mean.
Me:
“She said, “I don’t know.” Is it possible that the kids got involved?
I didn’t push. Not yet. But I knew she was telling the truth.
I started to pay more attention. She got a new Michael Kors purse the next time she dropped off the kids. I wasn’t judging her; it may have been fake or she could have received a fantastic deal. But I observed that her nails were done, her hair was freshly braided with extensions, and she stated in passing that she was “finally catching up” and “had a little extra to breathe.”
To make my grocery money last longer, I was eating peanut butter sandwiches.
I decided to add up my losses. I checked my spreadsheet to see how much money I had put in the tin. How much did you save? Three thousand four hundred twenty dollars. Gone.
I wanted to scream. But I didn’t want to punish the kids for what their mom did. The younger one was the nicest.
Then something happened that I wasn’t ready for.
My sister usually brought my niece home from daycare, but I did it a week later. One of the staff pulled me away.
“Thanks for paying that bill late,” she said.
I blinked. “Excuse me?”
“Last month, $600. Your sister told me you helped her.
No, I didn’t.
And three weeks ago, when I last counted it, I had almost exactly $600 in the can.
I asked my sister to come over that night. It’s just us, no kids. She thought about it, but she answered yes. I made tea to keep the peace.
“I’ll ask you once,” I said in a calm voice. “Did you steal my money box?”
She didn’t say no. She took a breath and said, “I needed help, okay?”
I waited.
She began her usual speech. Bills piling up, deadbeat dads, too much on her mind, and no one to help her. I already knew everything. That’s why I watched her kids for free four days a week.
“But you didn’t ask me,” I said. “You stole from me.”
She stared at the ground. “I was going to pay it back.”
“Did you buy that purse before or after?”
Her lips were squeezed together. “You think I don’t deserve anything good? Every day, my back hurts.
I don’t know what I was expecting. It might be guilt. Maybe remorse. I was mad instead.
“I wasn’t going to say anything,” I said, “but now it’s more than just the cash.” You are saying things that aren’t true about me. “Did I tell the daycare I paid?”
“That wasn’t a lie.” You did pay in a way.
I couldn’t believe it.
She left that night angry. Shut the door forcefully. They didn’t say thanks for the tea.
A few days went by. I didn’t keep an eye on the youngsters. Didn’t check in. The peace didn’t endure.
She sent a bunch of messages that said, “I’m sorry.” I was afraid. I didn’t expect you would see it. “I was in a lot of trouble.”
“I didn’t mean to lie. I just didn’t want to ask for help again. Can we go on? The kids want to meet you.
I didn’t know what to do. I missed the kids, too. But I also figured out that aiding her wasn’t the right thing to do.
So I choose what to do. I told them straight out that I needed a break. Not for good, but for a while. She wasn’t happy, but she didn’t push it.
Two weeks later, one of her exes called me. Dario is the father of her second child.
We had only met twice. But what he said stopped me in my tracks.
He continued, “I don’t want to get in the middle, but she told me you were suing her for lying about child support?”
“What?!”
“Yeah,” he said. “She said you were threatening her after seeing some papers.” To be honest, I didn’t believe it. She is not telling the truth.
I felt like my blood was turning to ice. She was using me as a shield again. What now?
That’s when I figured out that she wasn’t just taking my things. She was using my name to keep herself safe. For bills, lies, and problems I didn’t even know about.
People were starting to call me.
I did something I never thought I would do. I composed a letter when I was sitting down. Put it in the mail. Written by hand.
It went to my niece and nephew.
Just a quick note: “I love you a lot.” Auntie needs some time to herself right now, but I’ll always be there for you. “Don’t ever think this is your fault.”
I placed a little bag of stickers in each one. A little something that means a lot.
I also got a part-time job that week as a tutor after school. One of the kids I helped told his mom about me, and she offered to pay me to educate both of her sons.
I didn’t have much money, but I was starting to feel something I hadn’t felt in a while: peace.
Then, out of nowhere, my sister was at my door.
She looked like she needed to rest. The eyes are enlarged. No makeup, no lashes, and a scarf on her hair.
“I messed up,” she said in a quiet voice.
I didn’t say anything.
“I got a text. Someone told on me for saying I paid for daycare when I didn’t. “They’re looking at my books.”
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She sat down and started to cry. Crying that isn’t loud or dramatic. Tears that are flat and quiet.
“I used your name because I thought they would believe me if I had someone stable on my side,” she added quietly. “You’ve always been the good one.” The one that is safe.
That pained me more than the cash.
She finally told the truth: she had lied to a lot of people, including her parents, her church group, and even her parents’ friends, to keep her life in order. It was excessively hefty and was falling apart.
“I want to change,” she said. “I don’t know how to get there without lying.”
It wasn’t an apology. Not really. But I had never been that close before.
So I gave her a shot.
That weekend, we sat down and wrote up a plan. Make a plan for your money. Searching for a job. Groups to help each other. She found a free financial counseling program through a nonprofit in her neighborhood.
I told her I would help with the kids again, but just twice a week. No more hiding for her. She wasn’t allowed to enter my room.
It took a long time to get people to trust you again. Not really. But something big started to happen.
After two months, she sold that Michael Kors bag. They handed me back $200. Said there would be more.
It didn’t matter how much money it was. It was about her taking charge.
In October, she got a part-time job with a city program that helped older people get around. It’s funny that they took them to their appointments. Hours that don’t change. Pay on a regular basis.
One of the seniors gave her an old, broken-down Honda as a thank-you.
She said, “I think someone up there is giving me another chance.”
They might have been.
Today isn’t perfect. We still fight. She still gets mad. I still think I need to keep myself safe. But today, as I watch the kids, they bring me crayon drawings that say, “Thank you, Auntie.”
And last week, her 8-year-old son wrote me a note that said, “Mom’s trying really hard.” I see it.
I cried in my car when I heard that.
People may change. But they have to want it and feel safe confessing they were wrong.
I thought it was mean to set limitations. But there are times when loving someone means letting them figure things out on their own.
And what if they do? You will know when it’s time to walk with them again.
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